Tips for a One of a Kind Wedding
Tips For a One-of-a-Kind Wedding Ceremony
A few years ago I attended a wedding at a particular church where I had attended several other weddings in times past. As I sat in the congregation, I listened to the pastor use the same readings,the beginning of time.
As I felt an inner groan come upon me, I quickly realized that I was guilty of doing the same thing.
The reality is that the daily demands of a pastor leave very little time for the minister for wedding ceremony planning. With this thought in mind, I’d like to offer the following advice for engaged couples that desire an unparalleled wedding experience.
Invest in a reputable officiant While every wedding has a budget, it always surprises me how many couples are quick to invest in a venue, decorations, DJ, catering service, etc., but yet are leery to shop around for a qualified wedding officiant.
Chances are that you might have to invest more for an officiant who is more experienced, but remember this moment will live on in your heart and mind forthe rest of your lives.
With that said, I encourage you to invest in making it a great memory.Communicate your ideas The wedding is yours. This is your investment.
This is the start of your life together. How do you want yourselves and your guests to remember this moment?
Do not be afraid to ask your minister/officiant to incorporate any idea that may come across your mind.
Tell your story If you do not have a personal relationship with your officiant, it will be important to tell your personal love story to him/her.
If your wedding officiant is not aware of anything that sets you apart from other couples, he/she will be more likely to use a one-size-fits-all approach to constructing your wedding ceremony.Allow room for feedback
After sharing your ideas with your officiant ask for feedback. If your officiant is seasoned in his/her profession he/she will be able to give valuable feedback to what may or may not work in your ceremony.
To this day, I wish that somebody would have advised against using candles in our outdoor wedding. (We were completely unaware that the slightest breeze wouldturn them off.)
Review the ceremony Set an appointment with your officiant to review the wedding ceremony a few weeks prior to the wedding. This will let your officiant know that your ceremony matters to you and will prevent any “last minute” planning on their behalf.
If something does not set right with you as a couple it is best to discuss this before the wedding rather than regretfully talking about it later.
Thanks to John Garay at aweddingrev@gmail.com.